Did I forget abut Valentines Day again?

Ok, I got up this morning, jogged, took a shower, turned on TV, and, my Gosh what I saw. It is a Valentine Day today. Oh, noo, I forgot to buy the chocolate to my Lovely. Ah, the heck, just go and congratulate him, with a sweet kiss. That will be ok. What do you think? He gave me an ENORMOUSLY LARGE bear. I am the happiest. I always wanted to have a big bear. I love stuffed animals. I have elephant, dog (the gift to family's friend child, who grew up from toys, so I kept it to myself), small bear (another gift of me dearest), another dog and a rebit from Frontier Airlines. Isn't it sweet that now I have a huge bear?

Beside Valentine Day I wanted to talk about friends and friendship. Did you ever had a friendship with a person who makes you think that you are the smartest person in the world? Well, I did and I do. I cannot call the relationship with that person as a friendship. Maybe she does, but not me. Our "friendship" (I love those quotes because they show unrealated character of the word friendship to my relationship to this person) was more as a consecuencces of my life. I knew her before, then we didn't see each other for a while, and now we live in the same city. Really interesting coincidence but I won't go into a lot of details.

So this person, sticked to me with her friendship, and I accepted for a while, but now I understood that our values are very different. I always hated narrow-minded people, who thinks that their opinions can be the only that are correct and that everyone has to stick to them and approve. Of course, it is great to have an opinion, and to be devoted to it; however, this opinion should be based upon not only own preferences to things how you want them to be but also upon simple results of brain work, facts, anlysis and other logical processes that every human being can have from the birth or through learning and development. The person I am talking about lacks all those abilities, leaving only her opinion about the things in the way how she wants them to be. In simple words, she wants her life and things in her life to be better then anybody's else. If they don't, she will be frustrated and aggrevated, jealous and envious, trying to complain about the things that don't go her way. I know I do the same way sometimes, however, I have some type of the flexability, because I know that I am in different country now and I have to be accustomed to the new culture I live in now and I am going to stay in till possibly my last day. her narrow mind doesn't want accept new rules, and she is trying to convience me that people around are WRONG, she is the one who is RIGHT. There is no respect to the customs and rules of others. Her mind also is clogged by laziness and the lack of curiousity. She lives here for a couple of years and doesn't know many aspects of life she lives in now. Unfrortunately, it looks like that she even doesn't want to be involved in the learning of the new living style she is in.

Oh, no, actually I am wrong. She enjoys to show herself as a person who is from the high class. Damn it. Does it matter that she doesn't have the best service in the airlines? Does it matter that somebody didn't answer all her questions and advised to come over and to spend time talking in person? No, she thinks that everybody has to bend themselves in front of her, becausse she pays money, because she lives now in the country where everybody has to give the best services, because a customer is always correct. Yes, partly she is right, however, you cannot demand what is impossible or what is not paid for by you .

Oh, God, she tried to introduce her friend to me, and I think that was over the edge. I could survive one person like this, but not two. Greedy, uninterested in other things beyond their make-up, good sales and husband's income. Narrow-minded, who doesn't want to adjust to the new conditions of life expecting everybody to adjust to them, to their wishes and desires. Why in the Earth would I be so stiff? why should I demand everybody to follow my princeples of life, when there are so many people in this country and over the world, who may demand the same. Why are there people, who cannot realize that their wishes should be compromized sometimes for the heck of others who is around you. That would make everybody's lives easier, first of all for the same person who doesn't want to be compromised.

I noticed this feature among many Russian immigrants. I guess, other nations who immigrated have the same problems, but the most of immigrants I meet and know are immigrants from the former Soviet Union. And I can tell you up front, that those people, of course not all, are demanding demanding demanding. They think they are the center of the world and everything should be done for them in return for nothing. demand demand and are lazy to do something for themselves. I HATE it. First months of my life in US were the same way, I demanded free English classes, less beauraucracy and other small things, that I could have found compromise for, but I didn't want to. Then I thought, "Hey, slow down, because you are in another culture, you are the one who should follow those rules, although they are new to you." What a relief I had to follow my own conclusion. Well, of course, my curiousity in all things around me helped me with that, because I am not that lazy ass who will sit on a couch waiting for help and complaining how bad things are (I do it sometimes, I must confess). I go to places, I ask questions, and I get flexible with the information and with the events.

Anyway, I guess that "friendship" is not for me, and I will try to part with that person, because all those "high society" minds make me mad, crazy and unstable.